Marriage: Broken Unity

When I started this marriage ministry 9 months ago I had no idea how it would change my life or the way I did marriage. Today, as I look through my calendar at divorce proceedings that should never be amongst men and women in my ministry it breaks my heart. It is a sad thing that in the body of Christ, so many marriages have failed to represent the love between Christ and the church. Marriage has become like a fashion statement that goes out of style whenever the mood changes. No longer are marriages surviving the four seasons because as soon as the rough seasons come one if not both parties are jumping ship. Lives are being affected, children are being broken, and the family structure is being destroyed!

If only we could think of our self less and God more how many more marriages could survive the storms? I thank God for this ministry at the same time it can bring me much grief. I dislike to see people hurting in anyway, especially in marriage! The men and women in my ministry are like my family and when they hurt, I hurt with them! I know I should not take on this burden of pain because it is for God but I can't help but empathize with that kind of pain. There are no right words that I could form to ease their hurt but yet they still find comfort in my prayers and encouragement so that I can take comfort in! I praise God for equipping me with the knowledge and wisdom to help these men and women of God. Most importantly, I praise Him for making me a powerful prayer warrior and intercessor on their behalf!!! I never knew how powerful I would become at praying but I am grateful for how this gift manifested within me.

I wish we as wives and husbands would realize the real enemy in our marriages was satan and not one another. He despises unity. He hates this Holy covenant between God, man, and woman! He will do every and anything to destroy a marriage and many times we make it so easy for that to happen. Every time we do not do marriage God's way and let our flesh override our spirit we provide the enemy with a foot hole into our marriages. We take marriage out of God's hands and into our owns but when it starts spiraling out of control then we want God to take over again! We must stop this unhealthy cycle. We must stop bringing shame to marriages that people would rather shack up than be married because all it seems to lead to is divorce! Marriage is not a game and God is not pleased!

There are many of us who became married without God's permission. It was our own selfish desire and that is the reason for all that is occurring. Without waiting on God's timing it opened the doors to a full out battle in the spirit realm that many were not equipped for. However, because God is who He is nothing is impossible for Him! There are times He will just turn it all around and there are other times He will just set you up for greater. The latter part is what many argue against but God is God and He does as He pleases! He does not want His children to live in torment!!! God does not get glory out of a dysfunctional marriage and since we all have free will that is the only way true restoration can occur. When both parties come together to do marriage God's way!

Never stop fighting for your marriage unless God instructs you to do so! Those vows you took are very serious and God is holding you accountable to them. If you will just allow God to restore you and heal you then the hardest part is already over! God needs to work on you before He can even touch anything else. Make sure you have a pure heart towards God and your spouse. You must operate in the spirit of forgiveness AND love! It is mandatory not optional! However, you are NOT to accept abuse from your spouse on any level! Going through separation or divorce can be painful and hurt people hurt people and broken people try to break people! God does not want you to be a doormat because you are standing for your marriage and staying in His will! I cannot stress this enough that no matter what you deserve to be valued, respected, and treated as the man or woman of God created you to be! Know your worth and identity and Christ and don't let that be destroyed by anybody even your spouse. You are the daughters and sons of the Most High King! ;-)

I leave my married couples with this prayer: Father God in the name of Jesus allow your will to be done in every marriage across the world! Restore families Lord! Heal broken homes Father! Reconcile spouses to one another Holy Spirit! Break the chains and curses over marriages in Jesus name! No weapon formed against any marriage shall prosper in the name of Jesus! Destroy every strong hold by the power of the blood of Jesus! I bind up every spirit of lies, adultery, unforgivness, witchcraft, pornorgrphy, pride, bitterness, resentment, anger, rage, idolatry, hate, depression, oppression, strife, division, deceit, and double mindedness in Jesus name and I release the spirit of peace, love, joy, gentleness, forgiveness, patience, obedience, unity, fidelity, loyalty, salvation, humility, humbleness, repentance, grace, mercy and favor in the name of Jesus! Lord, have your way in your marriages and let your will overcome victorious in your perfect timing! I declare and decree that it is already getting better in Jesus name there will be glory after this for these wives and husbands! I speak life into these dead marriages and I prophesy that they shall live and not die in Jesus name, Amen! 

God Bless...Blog With you Later!!! =)

From Brokenness To Wholeness

I find myself always speaking on the importance of healing. So, many times we walk around broken getting into relationships that end up broken with other broken people. A valuable lesson I have learned is never enter a relationship broken or get in a relationship with someone who is.Why do I say this? I say this because when you do this you create an unhealthy dynamic. You put too much expectations on that person to be your savior when the only savior you should have is Jesus Christ! He is the one who got up on a cross and died for you not that person. They are only human. They will only be able to bear your brokenness for so long before they walk away. Allow God to heal your brokenness.

So, often our brokenness stems back from childhood, it stems from multiple bad relationships, it stems from the way we see ourselves instead of the way God sees us. Hurt people truly do hurt people but when you come to a place of healing you no longer cause pain to others. At the same time you learn not to accept it from others as well. When you walk into your healing it changes your life. When God changes your pain to joy and shows you your identity in Him you learn your value. You must understand that this healing is continuous and involves constant forgiveness from your past and your present. Forgiveness is the key to your healing! Forgiveness is not an emotion it is an action. You just do it. Set yourself free from the pain and forgive otherwise you give those who hurt you the power to keep you in bondage. Walk in your freedom and be healed. The word of God says that by His stripes you are healed!(Isaiah 53:5)

I encourage the women and men in my ministry to seek God and be open with Him about their pain. It is okay to grieve the pain. It is okay to feel weak, rejected, abandoned, and hopeless but DO NOT stay there! You have to get back up again and fight. Don't allow the storms of life to drown you. You have a God given purpose that you MUST fulfill. Yes, I am a wife, yes I am a mother, but I also have a purpose God put me on this earth to serve and I have to walk into that purpose in it's fullness. The world does not stop because I am hurting or facing a raging storm. No, I have to throw on my full armor of God (Ephesians 6) and stand on what God told me to do. It would cost me too much to get distracted. It will cost YOU too much to get distracted. Whatever it is, only you know...do what God has purposed for you.  However, please walk into your healing! Don't fight the healing process. Being whole is something you deserve to be! You should want to be at a place of wholeness. After all, what has a life of brokenness got you? Nothing but pain and misery. Allow God to step in and deliver you from that anger, the rage, resentment, bitterness, depression, oppression, the destructive behavior, whatever your struggle is allow God to heal you. He can do it. He did it for Me!!!

There are things that I face now that if I had to face them last year this time it would have sent me off the cliff but now I see it for what it is, a distraction from my purpose! So, I pick up my cross like Jesus. He had every opportunity to come down from the cross and not die for our sins because of the pain He was enduring. Like Jesus I have every right to step down from my cross because of the pain but if I step down at what cost? What lives will be affected? I trust God to guard my heart and to fulfill His will for my life. I see what He is already doing and I am just amazed. I have not even seen the fullness of what God is preparing me to do but I feel the greatness and I see the greatness He has connected me to. I have a gift and a heart that supersedes what I had imagined my purpose to be.God gifted me with a greater purpose and I am watching the fruit bearing daily. Please, if you truly want to see God's glory manifest into your life let Him bring healing into your life!

God bless and blog with you later....Smooches =)