Ever since middle school I had a fascination with rings. It was just pretty jewelry to me. Even when I became engaged it was just pretty jewelry. Even when I became a wife. It was still just pretty jewelry. I believe from past broken engagements and growing up in a family of multiple divorces on both sides of my family there was no reverence for marriage anymore. It had all been tainted by what I was surrounded by and my own personal experience with relationships. The meaning behind an engagement ring or a wedding band no longer had any meaning to me. The only meaning I had from mine were that they were from my husband and anything he has ever given me has always had great value no matter how small.
Earlier this year, I believe it was in February God commanded me to remove my ALL of my rings. Then replace 3 of them back on. I was only allowed to wear the ones my husband had given to me when we became engaged and my wedding band. On my other hand I was only allowed to wear the one my grandmother had given to me at 18. She passed away in 2010. When God first told me to remove my rings I can admit I did not want to. Yet God reminded me that as we were on this journey to transformation that I had promised to trust and obey Him. So, I removed my rings in obedience, and replaced my engagement ring, wedding band, and the ring from my grandmother back on my fingers and said, "Now what God?"
At this point I was sitting on my bed and God began to tell me the importance of the rings on my finger. They were not just jewelry. This was a covenant between Him and I as well as my husband. I had to respect this covenant and honor this covenant because my marriage was sacred. Like a circle that never ends, marriage is supposed to never end. These circles (rings) around my finger are a never ending covenant that I was not even acknowledging because of my past. So, before I always loved my rings because they were gifts from my husband but now when I look at my rings I love them because they are a reminder of the covenant I made with God and before God with my husband.
Many times we get married and never know what marriage is actually supposed to be because we look at it from the world's view. It is just a piece of paper and some jewelry. No, it is so much more. It is a holy covenant between God. It is something beautiful. It is something amazing. It is a gift from heaven that keeps on giving as long as you do marriage the way God designs it. I thank God for telling me to REMOVE MY RINGS!!! By this command He also removed my ignorance concerning my rings...
Blog with you later...Hugs and Love. =)
Monday, July 29, 2013
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
Wifehood
Seven months into the year and ten months into my transformation I can say that I am pleased with the wife I have become. It took a lot of hard work to get here but it isn't my final stop. I continue to strive and grow as the wife God has called me to be. I remember the sleepless nights, the tear stained pillows, and the many talks with God that brought me here. I had to be broken. I was broken from all the ideas and expectations I thought was supposed to come with wifehood. I replaced those things with God's word and what He said a wife should be. When I say it was life changing....It was LIFE CHANGING!!! I still fell down along the way but I got back up again. I kept getting up being more determined to be the wife God designed for me to be! No, my journey has not been easy but it has been so worth it! I stand strong knowing God is my strength. I know my role and I stay in my lane.
That is very hard for us as women to stay in our lanes especially in this independent mentality of "I am every woman" and "I don't need a man because a man needs me." Truth is we need each other! Often we enter marriage not truly knowing or roles and we often spend time merging in the lanes of our husbands instead of submitting to them. Submission is not a bad thing. It is a great thing actually. When we as wives learn to submit to God it allows us to submit to our husbands. This does not mean we are dominated by them but that we trust that they will lead our family in the right direction and we trust God to help them with this. Marriage cannot be done in our own strength. We need God to help us to do marriage God's way. We have to die to our flesh daily. We have to RESPECT our husbands. When we respect them they know we love them!
As men it is hard to come home to a wife and children who make you feel disrespected and unloved. A husband is supposed to want to rush home from work to be with his family not want to stay there longer to avoid them. As wives we have to show them the love and respect they need and deserve. I know you are wondering...well...what about the men? I am NOT a man so I can't speak for them but as a woman and a wife I can speak on what YOU should be doing! Besides too many times wives point out the flaws of their husbands as if they are flawless. Until you learn to speak life into your marriage and husband you will continue to see negative results! Work on you and allow God to work on him. Trust me, you have plenty of things that God needs to get out of you before He can even begin to touch your husband. Stop the blame game and start the change game!
Blog with you later...Hugs & Love!!!
That is very hard for us as women to stay in our lanes especially in this independent mentality of "I am every woman" and "I don't need a man because a man needs me." Truth is we need each other! Often we enter marriage not truly knowing or roles and we often spend time merging in the lanes of our husbands instead of submitting to them. Submission is not a bad thing. It is a great thing actually. When we as wives learn to submit to God it allows us to submit to our husbands. This does not mean we are dominated by them but that we trust that they will lead our family in the right direction and we trust God to help them with this. Marriage cannot be done in our own strength. We need God to help us to do marriage God's way. We have to die to our flesh daily. We have to RESPECT our husbands. When we respect them they know we love them!
As men it is hard to come home to a wife and children who make you feel disrespected and unloved. A husband is supposed to want to rush home from work to be with his family not want to stay there longer to avoid them. As wives we have to show them the love and respect they need and deserve. I know you are wondering...well...what about the men? I am NOT a man so I can't speak for them but as a woman and a wife I can speak on what YOU should be doing! Besides too many times wives point out the flaws of their husbands as if they are flawless. Until you learn to speak life into your marriage and husband you will continue to see negative results! Work on you and allow God to work on him. Trust me, you have plenty of things that God needs to get out of you before He can even begin to touch your husband. Stop the blame game and start the change game!
Blog with you later...Hugs & Love!!!
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