Seven months into the year and ten months into my transformation I can say that I am pleased with the wife I have become. It took a lot of hard work to get here but it isn't my final stop. I continue to strive and grow as the wife God has called me to be. I remember the sleepless nights, the tear stained pillows, and the many talks with God that brought me here. I had to be broken. I was broken from all the ideas and expectations I thought was supposed to come with wifehood. I replaced those things with God's word and what He said a wife should be. When I say it was life changing....It was LIFE CHANGING!!! I still fell down along the way but I got back up again. I kept getting up being more determined to be the wife God designed for me to be! No, my journey has not been easy but it has been so worth it! I stand strong knowing God is my strength. I know my role and I stay in my lane.
That is very hard for us as women to stay in our lanes especially in this independent mentality of "I am every woman" and "I don't need a man because a man needs me." Truth is we need each other! Often we enter marriage not truly knowing or roles and we often spend time merging in the lanes of our husbands instead of submitting to them. Submission is not a bad thing. It is a great thing actually. When we as wives learn to submit to God it allows us to submit to our husbands. This does not mean we are dominated by them but that we trust that they will lead our family in the right direction and we trust God to help them with this. Marriage cannot be done in our own strength. We need God to help us to do marriage God's way. We have to die to our flesh daily. We have to RESPECT our husbands. When we respect them they know we love them!
As men it is hard to come home to a wife and children who make you feel disrespected and unloved. A husband is supposed to want to rush home from work to be with his family not want to stay there longer to avoid them. As wives we have to show them the love and respect they need and deserve. I know you are wondering...well...what about the men? I am NOT a man so I can't speak for them but as a woman and a wife I can speak on what YOU should be doing! Besides too many times wives point out the flaws of their husbands as if they are flawless. Until you learn to speak life into your marriage and husband you will continue to see negative results! Work on you and allow God to work on him. Trust me, you have plenty of things that God needs to get out of you before He can even begin to touch your husband. Stop the blame game and start the change game!
Blog with you later...Hugs & Love!!!
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